catateface wrote:

Go with the flow? You know where the flow takes you? Over a waterfall. Into a lake full of piranhas. And there are snipers on the cliffs.
Listen, you finally got the chance to go on a date/pre-marriage courtship with a guy you like. If you don't have a plan then when he starts flirting with you, you won't know what to do. Then you'll panic and ruin the whole thing! Instead, you should make a bunch of flash cards with all the things he could say on one side, and something witty you could say back on the other (he says you look pretty- you say watch out, i have pepper spray). Then go over them a million times in front of a mirror. And if things do start to go wrong, pretend like you don't speak english very well and don't understand him.