I think a problem. I'm pretty much of a loner because i feel extremely uncomfortable in social situations. I have no idea of the way i should act when i'm around strangers or people i don't know very well. When an acquaintance/stranger talks to me, i start panicking asking myself a lot of questions like "What does he think about me?", "What am i supposed to say?" or sometimes it gets even worse and i start worrying about the most insignificient things like "Is my intonation good? How about my facial expression? Should i cross my arms right now to look more relaxed than i actually am or should i just let them hang loose at my sides?" those are things most people don't seem to think or even care about during a conversation, but i always do. Looking at someone in the eyes when he's talking to me/when i'm talking to him is also a big problem, i always look away or look down. For some reason i don't know, i feel even more unconfortable when i look into that person's eyes, when i do, it feels like this person is looking right through me, like he's analysing me, reading my thoughts. It may sound ridiculeous, but that's something i just can't stand. On top of that, it's hard for me to find the right words to formulate my thoughts and when i do, i stammer a lot and i tend to have difficulties with articulating words, so most of the time i just don't say anything...
I also noticed that i pay too much attention to what other people think of me. It seems like everything i do only has value when other people recognize it, when they congratulate me or tell me in any other way that what i did was good.
Or when i'm arguing or debating with someone, i always have the feeling that my arguments don't make sense. I only feel confident in what i support when other people agree with me and support what i support otherwise i end up abandoning the debate and convince myself that i'm wrong anyway since most people don't agree with me and other people know everything much better than i do.
It annoys me because i know that i shouldn't care that much about other people's opinions, i know that i should be strong and have more faith in myself...but i just can't...
Do you have any good advice to help me overcome my social uncofortability, be more confident in myself and increase my self-esteem?
I also noticed that i pay too much attention to what other people think of me. It seems like everything i do only has value when other people recognize it, when they congratulate me or tell me in any other way that what i did was good.
Or when i'm arguing or debating with someone, i always have the feeling that my arguments don't make sense. I only feel confident in what i support when other people agree with me and support what i support otherwise i end up abandoning the debate and convince myself that i'm wrong anyway since most people don't agree with me and other people know everything much better than i do.
It annoys me because i know that i shouldn't care that much about other people's opinions, i know that i should be strong and have more faith in myself...but i just can't...
Do you have any good advice to help me overcome my social uncofortability, be more confident in myself and increase my self-esteem?
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