No, guys don't always have to start the conversation. It just depends on the girl. Some wait for the guy to initiate a conversation and others start it themselves. If she doesn't start a conversation, it could be that she feels as if she's annoying you if she does. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to talk to you. She's just unsure on whether or not you want to talk to her. Or, it could be that the girl is used to the guy always initiating something and therefore she just waits. Like I said, it depends.

She could be feeling the same way as you, you just don't know it. If she didn't want to talk to you, she'd probably keep her responses short and not try to carry on a conversation with you. If you want her to take the initiative every so often, bring it up, but don't make it seem like you're forcing her to. In my opinion, it seems like it's just about reassurance, but that's because I'm the type that waits for the guy to talk and I've had it brought up to me.

Yeah, if ur interested in some1 then u should start it def.

Hi,

Some girls do expect guys to start conversations out of nervousness, Or it's just something were use to because it's normally how a conversation starts, unless the girl very confident about herself. Maybe try talking to her into a conversation to start. Like bring it up something really interesting and let it stick to her and maybe she'll bring it up again. Don't feel obligated to keep starting the conversation.

i never do im mad un-confident i wish i could change

i have the exact same problem. i leave msn open and wait that her talks to me. if not i leave it like that and just talk like once or twice a week in msn, the rest in school.

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for your second post....i have a friend that said she didnt ever want a relationship, but little by little she grew fond with another guy and are together now. everything can happen

Girls are just as nervous as guys. I agree with a lot of people, chances are she doesnt want to seem annoying or "trying too hard" if she initiates conversation. She probably doesnt know youre interested in her so she's trying to "lay low" if that makes any sense.

I think you've got a point here mate. My gf rarely starts a conversation on msn, but after I start it, she talks like mad! Must be girl thing. It's funny really how girls think that us guys could ever refuse them! I wish i could just send a message to all the girls out there.
NO. FREAKING. WAY.

I dunno it changes, some girls text me/msn me to start the convo, others i start and they never seem to stop talking.

You just have to judge on their responses to see whether or not they are into the conversation.

Both online and in real life, I find it immensly difficult to initiate a conversation with anyone. To so you, my friend, everyone is different and even if it seems as if she's ignoring you, chances are, she isn't. If we could tap into the minds of others just to see what they're thinking, perhaps engaging in a conversation would be a much easier process. But we can't. :wink:

It kind of flip flops, sometimes she messages me as soon as I get on, sometimes I'll start it up. Either way, it always ends up being a good convo =)

I like when my boyfriend starts the conversation because it makes me know hes thinking about me. but sometimes i start it up..