virginity and masculinity

aqua12345678 · Feb 9th 2010, 2:09pm

My Question is whether people think of you as "More of a man" once you have had sex.

Is virginity just a title to throw away at the first opportunity or something to hold onto?

what do you guys (and gals) think? :rolleyes:

ivaiva · Feb 9th 2010, 2:26pm

I can understand this but I think it's stupid. I think being masculine/feminine/grown up a is prooved by knowing to do something (fix, cook etc) and especially by being honest, mature, reliable, wiling to help others, responsible etc.

assassinROW · Feb 9th 2010, 4:25pm

Uhm, I don't feel much different from when i lost it to today. And that was Saturday night. So meh. Though i do feel more confident in myself.

xNerRadx · Feb 9th 2010, 5:38pm

ivaiva wrote:

I can understand this but I think it's stupid. I think being masculine/feminine/grown up a is prooved by knowing to do something (fix, cook etc) and especially by being honest, mature, reliable, wiling to help others, responsible etc.

Gender roles? I agree. I think loosing your virginity has more to do with maturity. Personally, I feel like by having sex, I won't feel like a kid anymore. And people who have had sex, I don't think of them the same. I don't think of them as adults, but there is definitely some kind of lost innocence.

ivaiva · Feb 9th 2010, 5:53pm

xNerRadx wrote:

Gender roles?

What about them? I'm not really big fan of them:thumbdown:

assassinROW · Feb 9th 2010, 5:54pm

xNerRadx wrote:

Gender roles? I agree. I think loosing your virginity has more to do with maturity. Personally, I feel like by having sex, I won't feel like a kid anymore. And people who have had sex, I don't think of them the same. I don't think of them as adults, but there is definitely some kind of lost innocence.

This is very true, before i lost mine, i felt that they were more mature then me, but now i feel on par with them.

xNerRadx · Feb 9th 2010, 6:33pm

ivaiva wrote:

What about them? I'm not really big fan of them:thumbdown:

I was just asking if that was what you were talking about.

assassinROW wrote:

This is very true, before i lost mine, i felt that they were more mature then me, but now i feel on par with them.

I'm not gonna lie, I do feel kinda... inferior to kids that have had sex. And it pisses me off when someone lost their virginity at like, 14. But I'm not about to go out and have sex because everyone else is doing it. It'll be more rewarding 5-10 years from now when I'm with the right person.

assassinROW · Feb 9th 2010, 6:36pm

I do see the point of doing it with the right person, as i lost it with a girl that i don't even know and hooked up with at a party, but i think it made it a lot closer considering we were both virgins. And it makes me feel better that we both lost it at the same time. And i don't regret losing it with her either.

ivaiva · Feb 9th 2010, 6:54pm

xNerRadx wrote:

I was just asking if that was what you were talking about.

No. I was talking how being reliable, wiling to help others, responsible is sign of maturity (and not having sex). And for me being "more of a wo/man" doesn't make any sense unless it's sign of growing up/maturity. I hope you undersatnd what I'm trying to say? That there is no masculinity/femininty, there are just characteristics of grown up and mature people.

xNerRadx · Feb 9th 2010, 6:57pm

ivaiva wrote:

No. I was talking how being reliable, wiling to help others, responsible is sign of maturity (and not having sex). And for me being "more of a wo/man" doesn't make any sense unless it's sign of growing up/maturity. I hope you undersatnd what I'm trying to say? That there is no masculinity/femininty, there are just characteristics of grown up and mature people.

Yeah... I'm lost lol. But it's ok I'm naturally slow. It's not your fault.

Maximus1991 · Feb 9th 2010, 7:58pm

I think that in a lot of circles losing your virginity makes you more masculine but, knowledge of someones virginity or lack thereof doesn't impact my opinion of them at all.

ivaiva · Feb 9th 2010, 8:02pm

And yes, btw, how "people" know you've had sex?

kiwinall · Feb 9th 2010, 8:08pm

I wouldn't say i felt like more of a man, but i do feel slightly more confident in myself.

rubber314chicken · Feb 9th 2010, 8:34pm

If you think having sex will make you a man you are wrong, and have a very immature view on what it means to be a man.

libbey91 · Feb 10th 2010, 7:28am

To behonest i actually feel more mature then most people who have lost their virginity. Im an 18 yr old college student and i feel better about myself then those who have had sex. Its even crazy when people find out for the first time that i am still a virgin. I get dumb looks from them. And most people deny it. Hell even my girlfriend didnt believe me at first. She is also a virgin but wants to wait til she graduates from high school before she has sex which is in just over a year. and people constantly ask me if i can wait that long. I believe if you want to have sex then you should have it with somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. Not just some random hook ups. Sex is addicting just ask my roommate, he has brought home over 5 different girls and had sex with them all and finds it hard to be in a commited relationship. I feel no different now then what i will when i lose it.:)

ag3150 · Feb 15th 2010, 2:08am

I don't think it makes you a man at all. People who've lost it aren't any more mature than people who haven't.

SallyBaby · Feb 15th 2010, 2:30am

depends on the guy iv met guys who were sper sweet and fun to be around as virgins and once they had sex they became alpha male assholes

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