I recently met a really lovely guy on a college trip. We started going out, i felt he was the right one for me and everything, and likewise to him. But i am slightly annoyed about something, which i dont really understand. He says he misses me, wants to meet up etc, yet when i ask him or try and make effort in arranging something, he seems to put everything else first. Do any of you have this same problem with a guy? I dont know whether im just going over the top or not, but in my opinion, if someone loves you, they would put you first once. It is getting me down, i know hes a really nice guy, but i feel he doesnt understand how it makes me feel when he makes me feel second best all the time, i dont wanna end the relationship, but i cannot put up with this. Tbh if i did this it might make him realize.

Yeah. Tbh i feel i have barriers will people, i cannot trust anyone because of how people make me feel this low.
I try shorting it out with him but he sounds un enthusiastic. He says one minute we can meet, then another minute he is saying he has to do something, it really does make me feel sad because every does the same.
exactly same yeah. He makes me feel second best, although he says im not he doesnt realize how down i feel when he makes me feel that way. He so needs to learn to understand how he hurt people.

I agree, this is why i always wanted a gf. I feel they understand me better etc.
But then when i have a partner i feel too emotionally close to that person, im that afraid of being let down. What i need is a close friend/ or a partner, but im not letting myself close to people because of the way people treat me. So its not that i dont want it, but im losing trust in people.

Your all right. I am very open about feelings, i cannot hold them in. But i feel im beginning to keep myself to myself towards everyone i meet because im just tooafraid of being let down by everyone. I havent had a good past with relationships with people, i still dont feel i have proper friends now, having a partner may just fill that space up in my heart and i feel he is that space to me. But this is the downfall at the moment. Its a shame though because hes such a nice guy, but i dont think he realizes what he is doing to be honest.
I just wander sometimes when i will find some genuine people. Being single was less stressful, but i felt i hadnt got anyone there for me, still dont and its horrible. Having a bf could alter that, if he starts to put me first sometimes.
Problem is, i wont even mix with new peopleif i start to keep myself to myself like i am doing now. But i really cant learn how to trust people just incase they do the same as everyone else. I dont anyone make effort in doing anything, the only person i actually allowed myself close to was my mentor, i cant trust any of my other friends really.

LOL thanks for the compliment


I think things are sorted now. HOPEFULLY.
He was not talking to me much because he hated me shouting at him. I can understand that. But problem is my past hasnt been great, i find it hard to trust and i just need time to gain this in him, same with everyone.