so i realize that most everyone has problems with their parents....
but i think i just need to know if my mom's behavior is normal at all.
okay.. so when i was a kid my mom used to hit me and my brother (like if we did bad stuff). sometimes she'd use her fists and stuff. other times she uses like sticks of wood or sturdy branches. i think the worst time was when i started horseback riding and she would use the whip. one time, she hit my brother so badly that he had these gashes across his back.
more recently (and i thought this was really bad) but she was all superstitious and my brother said something really stupid. so she told him to knock on wood three times. except my brother is a lot like me and not superstitious at all. so she punches him really hard in the head, and was like knock on wood two more times, or i'll knock on your head two more times. but like, my brother didn't do it fast enough (obviously because he was crying) and so she punched him really hard in the head two more times.
but i think my biggest thing is the things she says.
like, this one time, i had this break down and told her that i was really miserable and stuff. and her response was that (and i don't tell people this a lot, but i'm desperate for information, and i don't really FEEL like typing is telling anyone but) i should go run away and just kill myself. i actually tried confronting her (and i confronted her in front of my dad a third time) and she completely denied it and made me look like the awful one.
anyhow, throughout my life, there's always been stuff like this going on, like she tells me that i'm worthless and good for nothing and that i'll never accomplish anything at life, and that everything bad that happens in the family is always my fault.
so.. yeah. i don't want it to seem like i'm complaining or anything, but i just need to know if any of this stuff is normal for a parent. like, i started rethinking about all this stuff a while ago, and i've been thinking about how i don't trust anyone (especially adults) and how i can't ever even open my mouth in class and stuff. i overthink everything, and i went through a lot of bad stuff (mentally) especially in the last couple of years. i thought there might be connections so i guess i'm asking for opinions.
i've been thinking about suing my mom for emotional distress and abuse, but i don't know if i have grounds to do it. if what she's doing isn't normal, i think she needs to learn that it isn't (she'll never listen to anyone. she's really self-consumed. if it's not her way, it's no way). i'm almost out of the house, but my brother isn't. if it's not normal, i don't want him to go through it anymore.
what do you guys think?
(thanks for putting up with that long-ass post, btw)
but i think i just need to know if my mom's behavior is normal at all.
okay.. so when i was a kid my mom used to hit me and my brother (like if we did bad stuff). sometimes she'd use her fists and stuff. other times she uses like sticks of wood or sturdy branches. i think the worst time was when i started horseback riding and she would use the whip. one time, she hit my brother so badly that he had these gashes across his back.
more recently (and i thought this was really bad) but she was all superstitious and my brother said something really stupid. so she told him to knock on wood three times. except my brother is a lot like me and not superstitious at all. so she punches him really hard in the head, and was like knock on wood two more times, or i'll knock on your head two more times. but like, my brother didn't do it fast enough (obviously because he was crying) and so she punched him really hard in the head two more times.
but i think my biggest thing is the things she says.
like, this one time, i had this break down and told her that i was really miserable and stuff. and her response was that (and i don't tell people this a lot, but i'm desperate for information, and i don't really FEEL like typing is telling anyone but) i should go run away and just kill myself. i actually tried confronting her (and i confronted her in front of my dad a third time) and she completely denied it and made me look like the awful one.
anyhow, throughout my life, there's always been stuff like this going on, like she tells me that i'm worthless and good for nothing and that i'll never accomplish anything at life, and that everything bad that happens in the family is always my fault.
so.. yeah. i don't want it to seem like i'm complaining or anything, but i just need to know if any of this stuff is normal for a parent. like, i started rethinking about all this stuff a while ago, and i've been thinking about how i don't trust anyone (especially adults) and how i can't ever even open my mouth in class and stuff. i overthink everything, and i went through a lot of bad stuff (mentally) especially in the last couple of years. i thought there might be connections so i guess i'm asking for opinions.
i've been thinking about suing my mom for emotional distress and abuse, but i don't know if i have grounds to do it. if what she's doing isn't normal, i think she needs to learn that it isn't (she'll never listen to anyone. she's really self-consumed. if it's not her way, it's no way). i'm almost out of the house, but my brother isn't. if it's not normal, i don't want him to go through it anymore.
what do you guys think?
(thanks for putting up with that long-ass post, btw)
