Having a baby is a big responsibility. Its not a toy.

Can both of you support a third? I know you mention his mom will help but that is all in talk. Things could change and then you will have to deal with your own choices.

I hope you make the right choice and good luck.

Exactly how old are you?

1. How old are you?
2. How old is he?
3. How long have you guys been together?
4. Are you both working?
5. Do you guys have any plans to go to college?
6. Are you going to be able to provide your child with everything they need on your own?
7. If circumstances change, and his mother is unable to help support your child, are you going to be able to take care of it on your own?

I just looked at your profile. You are 14!

At that age you should not be thinking about having a child, you practically are one. Your main focus should be school etc. Not having a child.

I can not, under any circumstance, recommend two people your age take on the responsibility of child care so early.

I think you should wait until you are older and more mature. Having a baby now will complicate things. A baby like i said is not a toy it required a LOT of time, patience, and money. You are very young, enjoy the relationship, there is not need to have a baby now...its not a toy you can return or throw away.

All I have to say is, once you have that baby you are going to be cutting-self-while-hating-life angry at yourself over it, if you really want one you should probably make sure that you have backups to the whole his mother thing. Your mother doesn't want you to do it, so surely it's not gonna be a simple "I dont caer itz mah body i can do wut i wont ima liv wit himm" and it's done, there will probably be an issue with that. Moving in together will probably ruin your relationship as well because part of the fun of being in relationships as a teenager is seeing the other with off-time, and being your relationship self with them and then being able to return to the real you and reflect when you're apart. I wouldn't do this now, but it really is your body, you can do what you want I guess how will you support when your saved up money runs out? You have 4 years until you turn 18, can your job and savings support that?

Nice to know you're taking the baby's life into consideration.

This seems selfish to me.

Personally, I don't think you should be wanting to start a family with your boyfriend at your age. You are still young and there's many things you'd have to sacrifice if you are a mother. And honestly, I do not think you are ready to give that up yet.

However, what I think or say on this controversial issue shouldn't matter much. You are capable of making your own decisions, but let's just hope you make the right one. You have to ask yourself if you are ready to take on this responsibility. And you also have to ask yourself if it will get easier or harder to continue school and taking care of a child. And are you even financially stable? And what will happen once you have the child - do you think your boyfriend will want to stay with you then? Listen, there's a lot to consider and think about.

My main question is: Why do you want to have a baby so badly at this age?

Fucking retarded. People like you should not be allowed to reproduce.

Your only 14 whats the rush?

Like PhillyStorm said your basically a child yourself you are not ready to be a mother.

idiot.

There are far too many aspects of having a child, and so many consequences both physical, psychological, monetary, developmental (for yourself) and goodness knows how many others, including maturity issues.
Parents need to educationally guide their child, they need to try to provide a stable home environment and need to be emotionally stable in order to support the child as he/she grows and learns. You haven't finished school yet, you probably, or almost certainly are not aware of how greatly such a decision will affect your whole life.
I would also suggest you check the legality of caring for a child as a minor, I rather suspect that unless you can prove to be remarkable mature and financially independant that the child will be taken away from you and put under state care, unless your boyfriend's mother is actually willing to take on the full legal responsibility for his/her care.

I can say without doubt that you are not remotely able to properly raise a child to lead their life to the full extent they would otherwise be capable of. As every other poster here has said, you have *so* much time in which to choose to have a baby, if you are concerned with how the babies life will be then take these next few years to attend school and mature as a normal teenager. A baby needs a mature parent, and no child could really even concieve the amount of maturity they still have to gain, or have any realistic idea what the world out here is actually like.

If you are inclined to disregard what we're saying then please find someone else who has done the same thing and ask for their opinion. This idea is neither in your or a baby's interests.

With that money saved, either put it towards college or use it with your boyfriend to go out and explore the world, before you get caught with a child and never have free time again.

I won't lie and say I don't get broody from time to time. I've always been that way, since I was 12 or so. However, I'm 17 and have been sexually active with my ex and have had the chance to make as many babies as I want so to speak, fact is, there's an aspect of control within me stopping me if I can help it. Find a way to focus on something else other than babies. If you're really 14, chance is love, you wont still be with your boyfriend in a years time, let alone a lifetime. Sounds like you've not thought about what's right.

Okay, i hope you're joking, if not, good luck being a single mum, because he will leave you once he realises the responsibility, and wont have time to do what he likes(bike shop)

and for once, i agree with batgirl.

this sounds insane I'd love to see how you'd cope with a baby for 48 hours never mind for the rest of your young life. Enjoy it while it's there, what's the point?

I defiantly agree with batgirl

:cool: Finally, my time to shine.