Alright so there's this REALLY complicated situation with this girl and I and it's really screwing with my mind.
We were pretty "close" for a couple months, but then just around last week, things started to get HORRIBLE. We just stopped talking and interacting, and we would just avoid each other and never be near each other. Occasionally I would initiate the conversation but then she'd immediately shut me down with one word answers or just walk away or ignore me. On MSN, she would only respond with one word answers and refuse to initiate the conversation. And the problem is, I don't think that I did anything serious or said anything horrible, but perhaps it's just a personal issue?
All in all, it's been breaking my heart because I really like this girl. From my perspective, it seems like she's started to hate me, and I think it's because I flirt around with many other girls, but I want to convey the message that I think that she is absolutely beautiful and the greatest person in the world. All her friends tell me that she's just going through a rough time, but she seems to be depressed but also talking to all of these other guys, except me.
There's this one guy who has a girlfriend who has started sitting beside her in class, and although he is a natural flirter, the girl that I like seems to always be staring at him whenever he does anything, and he is known throughout school as one of the most attractive guys. It's really bothering me and causing me bouts of depression at home and at school, basically everywhere.
If her depression issue is the key, then I'd like to know any advice, anything that could cheer her up because I really do want her to be happy. That's my main goal, because ultimately, when she's sad, I'm sad. I also want to know everyone else's interpretation of this situation, because honestly, I don't even know what's going on, I just know that I'm really depressed and that she's not talking to me.
Perhaps I just need to man up and tell her my feelings? But the only reason that I haven't done that is because I wanted it to be at a perfect time. Now all my friends are pressuring me to just do it, but I really don't want to rush it and make it have no meaning. I was gonna wait til after exams, but it seems to long of a wait, and honestly, this is bothering me SO MUCH right now. I can't even explain it...there just seems to be this pit in my heart and I honestly can't think of anything else other than her and what to do. I fear that my depression is not helping her situation, but honestly I can't dig myself out of this pit and attempt to be positive with her. Everytime she sees me she ignores me, yet talks to all of these other guys and flirts with them, touching them and everything.
Sorry, I just really had to get this out. I'm just feeling really screwed up right now...and I just want her to be happy.
We were pretty "close" for a couple months, but then just around last week, things started to get HORRIBLE. We just stopped talking and interacting, and we would just avoid each other and never be near each other. Occasionally I would initiate the conversation but then she'd immediately shut me down with one word answers or just walk away or ignore me. On MSN, she would only respond with one word answers and refuse to initiate the conversation. And the problem is, I don't think that I did anything serious or said anything horrible, but perhaps it's just a personal issue?
All in all, it's been breaking my heart because I really like this girl. From my perspective, it seems like she's started to hate me, and I think it's because I flirt around with many other girls, but I want to convey the message that I think that she is absolutely beautiful and the greatest person in the world. All her friends tell me that she's just going through a rough time, but she seems to be depressed but also talking to all of these other guys, except me.
There's this one guy who has a girlfriend who has started sitting beside her in class, and although he is a natural flirter, the girl that I like seems to always be staring at him whenever he does anything, and he is known throughout school as one of the most attractive guys. It's really bothering me and causing me bouts of depression at home and at school, basically everywhere.
If her depression issue is the key, then I'd like to know any advice, anything that could cheer her up because I really do want her to be happy. That's my main goal, because ultimately, when she's sad, I'm sad. I also want to know everyone else's interpretation of this situation, because honestly, I don't even know what's going on, I just know that I'm really depressed and that she's not talking to me.
Perhaps I just need to man up and tell her my feelings? But the only reason that I haven't done that is because I wanted it to be at a perfect time. Now all my friends are pressuring me to just do it, but I really don't want to rush it and make it have no meaning. I was gonna wait til after exams, but it seems to long of a wait, and honestly, this is bothering me SO MUCH right now. I can't even explain it...there just seems to be this pit in my heart and I honestly can't think of anything else other than her and what to do. I fear that my depression is not helping her situation, but honestly I can't dig myself out of this pit and attempt to be positive with her. Everytime she sees me she ignores me, yet talks to all of these other guys and flirts with them, touching them and everything.
Sorry, I just really had to get this out. I'm just feeling really screwed up right now...and I just want her to be happy.
