So, I'm being completely candid

    • So, I'm being completely candid

      First, let me start with a foreward:

      1) I want to apologize beforehand about the redundancy of this proceeding message. I know you all get these sorts of threads regarding the supposed sexuality of the OP.

      2) Thanks in advance for your responses; it's gotta be tiring.


      Now, with the real message:

      I'm 17, and about to head to college. But, for about four years now (since my freshman year in high school), I've been looking at guys. Checking them out.

      I played football my freshman year, and got the whole shower experience. Saw a lot of guys in the nude. Thing is, it turned me on (luckily, not while showering!!). This has progressed even more now; I'm looking at gay porn at times, about half of the time, and I get off to it.

      But, I'm not anywhere near being interested in a relationship, whether that be physical or emotional. In fact, I cringe at the thought of anything physical occurring between myself and another man, outside of masturbation.

      I just don't understand my situation. Furthermore, I don't trust anyone outside of an online forum to discuss this with; one of my friends'll blab it, inevitably. Can anyone help me shed light on it?

      (p.s. - if any more info is needed, please, don't hesitate to ask.)

      -Daniel
      Cognito Ergo Sum :)

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      You're just bicurious, don't worry about it.
      Simply put, if you can not see yourself getting married or having sexual intercourse to somebody of the same sex, you are not gay or bisexual.
      So don't worry to much, enjoy it. I believe in the Pagan rede: "An it harm none, do what ye will."
      As you can probably make out, it means do as you will as long as nobody gets hurt.
      You like gay porn, so what? Nothing wrong with it.

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      I think you answered your own question. Think about yourself and a guy. If the thought of being physical or being in a relationship with him is a turn off or makes you "cringe", then you are probably NOT gay or bisexual.
      It may just be that gay porn, or the thought of the male body, turns you on. This is completely detached from emotions, it's just what you "get off to", so to say. XD
      And that can be normal. I know a lot of straight girls that like watching lesbian porn, and they'd never go out with a girl in real life. It's just sexually thrilling for them to watch it, and they enjoy it. There's even rumours the Hefner gets off from gay porn, despite being surrounded by half-naked playmates all day ;D
      My point is, if you enjoy "watching" but don't feel physically, mentally or emotionally attracted to men, you are not gay. Enjoy it without guilt.

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      I hate how easily people label you based off a brief discription. Not everything is black and white including sexual orientation. There is gray area and you dont NEED a name for it. Your you and that's that. lol However, that how it started for me, slow. But at a slightly younger age. But I think a big reason people can't "see" themselves with someone of the same sex at first is because we are raised thinking homsexuality is wrong and there is so much pressure to be a certain sexual orientation. That being said however you turn out I support you. :) You also can't have people decide this for you its something you can either persue and see where it goes or just close the door. You got to figure that out for yourself. Good luck!

      I also disagree with people saying just because you can't see yourself with a guy doesn't mean it can't change. It did for me when I first started realizing my attraction to guys I went into major denial and I was completely freaked out. It may be the same for you since you are at an early phase as you just realized this (similar to when I first did) or you may be different like the others above are saying. Only time will tell.
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      I consider myself gay now, but earlier in life, I was in a situation similar to yours.
      I was only interested in guys, and have been my entire life, but still, the concept of a relationship or even kissing another guy was foreign, weird, and because I was told it was wrong to be gay my entire life (religious parents and teachers) I never even considered the possability.
      While I did more reserch and became desensitized, and realized there is nothing wrong with a homosexual relationship, I became more and more infatuated with the concept, and I eventually could only see myself in a relationship with another guy.

      While I'm not saying you're in the same situation, the concept of a relationship isn't what defines sexuality, so if there is an attraction there, you could be on the spectrum. I'm not going to say you could be bi or gay or anything, because i loathe titles, but you are you, ad the only one that will ever be able to tell you your sexuality is yourself.

      But good luck, hope everything works out!
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      xman wrote:

      sorry to disagree with all but if you enjoy gay porn you're gay or at least bi.anyways atm you're freaked out by crossing the leap but you'll early or lately! just be natural and follow your desire and good luck
      don't restrain your feeling !




      Dude, you seem to forget that porn, whether gay or straight, is meant to arouse the viewer. So even a straight guy can enjoy gay porn, and a gay guy can like straight porn.

      What determines a person's sexuality is whether they would actually be in a relationship and have sex with a person of the same or opposite sex.