Okay. So this is kind of a rant, but it is also me wanting someone to talk to and opinions.
My sisters boyfriend said something to her that hinted to them getting engaged. He said something like "we will be engaged soon." I wasn't there so I am going off of what she said. They have been together only a year and a half. They constantly fight, like everyday. They break up sometimes. He recently lied about wanting to make more commitment(move in together) when he did not want to. She went through the trouble of saving all of her money, almost signing a lease, and all that stuff. She constantly bitches, she lies about everything(she almost ruined my mom and mines relationship). And she doesn't want to get engaged. He's a highschool drop out(no ged either). And she doesn't have any dreams.

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 3/4. He doesn't want to get engaged until everything is all settled down(he has a better job, we can afford a place, we can afford a wedding). I understand that point of view. But I wouldn't mind being engaged for a few years until that happens. I agree with not getting married until we can afford it, but I don't want to wait forever. I want to know he at least plans on being with me forever(not just words. I am so sick of just words). I don't even want a ring, I just want to be engaged. We hardly fight, we waited two and a half years before having sex. We are comfortable spending a lot of time together.

Am I just a bitch? How does someone who lies and doesn't want to get engaged, end up engaged? How is it that I am stuck feeling left out and unloved when I love this man with all of my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him? It just isn't fair.

The_Metal_Prince wrote:

^ That guy is either a troll, or somewhat mentally challenged.

People can do what they want. Me and my gf have been together for six months, and we want to move and and shit. Each to there own.

thanks, someone that kind of understands.
and I agree about him trolling. After reading his other posts, he just strikes me as a heartless ass.

Dude, you are just a fucking asshole bully. Get out of my thread if you are just going to troll. And if you think you aren't an asshole, how about you look back at that 13 year old who was raped. Your little comment on there was fucking rude. The kid was just raped and you want to say something as though he had a say in it. Fuck off.

thanks kopite. I'm just at a point in life where it is hard to believe in love. I do not have a clue why I would even want to get married. My parents are getting divorced. I do not understand how, but I am in love yet I do not believe in love. If that makes any sense. I do not see how you can just toss 20 years and your children down the drain, which is what it feels like.
as far as age, my boyfriend is 19 and I am 18. I am graduating soon and moving out of town for college. We will still be close, but an hour one way is not great. I just think with waiting until I am out of school would be insane(i am going for my PhD, so I'll be in school for a while). I do not know if he will ever want to move that far. I guess I should somehow talk to him about how I am feeling, but I don't have a clue what to say without making him feel upset or mad. I do not want him to think it's his fault.

thank you so much Kev. I just have to figure out how to talk to him. Whenever I try to talk about feelings, like not trusting, or anything, he gets kind of mad. But maybe this time will be different.

I am definately not trying to follow my sisters relationship. I do not want to ever be like them. They constantly fight and break up. And she doesn't want to be with him. And he's a cheater.