The more people that know, the more easier it is to accept it. I've eventually learned to accept it even though only 2-3 people only know.

Like most things, its different with different people. The majority of my gay or lesbian friends accepted it quite quickly, but a few are still in denial, which i think is silly. just give it time, you'll get used to it!

Two seconds, I went hmmm that girl is hot. Ever since then it's been bliss.

it took me about 6 years to come to terms and accept it. i dunno' how long it will take for me to tell anyone else.

I came to terms very very quickly. My issue was in helping OTHERS come to terms with it.
I don't really understand why it is hard for some people to accept who they are. Being gay is just like having brown eyes or big feet. It's just who you are.

louiebugooey wrote:

I came to terms very very quickly. My issue was in helping OTHERS come to terms with it.
I don't really understand why it is hard for some people to accept who they are. Being gay is just like having brown eyes or big feet. It's just who you are.

Being gay isn't "who you are." To me, being gay is just a small difference. It's like preferring vanilla over chocolate.

I didn't mean to imply that it defines your entire self, although I can see how I have done so. I just meant that it's a part of you.

louiebugooey wrote:

I didn't mean to imply that it defines your entire self, although I can see how I have done so. I just meant that it's a part of you.

Of course, I know exactly what you mean.
I just like to stray away from it being "who you are," because honestly, it's a very insignificant difference. It's made out to be a lot bigger than it is, unfortunately.

It really is! I just wish I understood why people can't accept it. Sometimes I wish I knew what was going on in the heads of those people.

It didn't take me that long to accept, just a while to get used to. Like, when I first realized it, I was like, "sweet! I'm gay!" And then after time.... "sweet, I'm gay! ... oh, people don't like me because of that... awkwaaard..."

People will always hate that which they don't understand :3

I was going through a "bi" phase for about two years, and then something happened and I came in terms with it. Long story.

I accepted it then denied it then went well hey y am i denying it it's not like anyone important to me is going to hate me for. that all happened over 5 years but really wen i first realized and accepted it for 2 years it took all of 3 secs of looking at a topless guy to accept lol.

It didn't take long at all to accept that I liked guys; what took time to accept/figure out was if I was gay or bi. Once I realized I liked guys, the acceptance was semi-instant. I had a few moments of trepidation, but I got over it quick.

a long time. until i accidently told my rents lol

Personally, it took me a while to accept that I was starting to develop a crush on one guy, because I always thought I was straight. I suffered from depression because of it, and it took me several months to get over it. Partly because I was afraid of what others would think, and if I would be rejected. So...yeah. It also took me a while, however, to figure out my orientation, but I finally settled on pansexual.

I'm having the same troubles you are....the biggest hing that is keeping me from accepting it is homophobes though, i think lol.

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