Hello guys. I can't go on and on, this is going to be short. But for 2 years I have questioned my sexuality and I tried to get help from Youtube. But the only person there said I was too young, but I'm not. Some of my friends have lost their virginity, almost everyone's had alchohol, I'm at the age that I should have some freaking idea. I have... I don't know what content is allowed here... j***ed off to women (I'm a guy) but that's because I'm pretty new to sexual thoughts. I'm sure if I saw a naked man I could do the same. I've seen men and thought "he's not hard on the eyes" or "ew." but I've never had wet dreams about either sex. I've never been in any relationship and when it comes to homosexual sterotypes I am feminine. I know of musicals that were made 20 years before I was born, I have just as many female friends as male friends and I still have stuffed animals. I like unicorns and don't get stupid boys. I know this doesn't lock me in as gay, but if that helps you help me then so be it. My question is, do you think I should try and experiment with the same sex? Or do you think I'm pretty straight? I'll answer any questions you have.
Am I gay or am I going too far?
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You're gay.[FONT="System"][SIZE="4"]I find it funny that thing that built me up,
is the same thing that broke me down.[/SIZE][/FONT]
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Tanner wrote:
You're gay.
Okay. I'll do that test but that's what I needed. Someone's honest opinion and if you think I'm gay then I guess I should start experimenting.
Honestly I don't know if I should thank you for calling me gay or not. -
Omg, don't listen Shishak, he's our resident creep. .-.
And for serious advice.
None of those superficial things, like liking stuffed animals, or having lots of female friends hold any relevance to your sexuality. You may just be what is called "camp" meaning a straight male with "girlish" tendencies. If you hven't ever thought of males in a sexual way, then I wouldn't give it much thought[CENTER]
Loistre Danz....[/CENTER]
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Only way you will know is to have sex with Kahlil.[FONT="System"][SIZE="4"]I find it funny that thing that built me up,
is the same thing that broke me down.[/SIZE][/FONT]
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Curious-and-Depressed wrote:
Thank you Cookie. It's complicated and I don't want to get it into it, but I don't know if that exactly solves my problem.
I've thought of men sexually as well as women but never a specific man. I've never imagined my friends naked but I have had dreams of penises, other male sexual actions, etc...
Does this bother you? there's no reason for it to. Just live, love and let love. Don't focus so much on gender as a determining factor in who you allow yourself to love.
You may be bicurious, and at that questioning stage, but don't make any decisions yet. :)
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Tanner wrote:
Only way you will know is to have sex with Kahlil.
that's how tanner found out.
I'm not gay though.[CENTER]
Loistre Danz....[/CENTER]
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Cookie wrote:
Does this bother you? there's no reason for it to. Just live, love and let love. Don't focus so much on gender as a determining factor in who you allow yourself to love.
You may be bicurious, and at that questioning stage, but don't make any decisions yet. :)
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that's how tanner found out.
I'm not gay though.
Si
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Cookie wrote:
Does this bother you? there's no reason for it to. Just live, love and let love. Don't focus so much on gender as a determining factor in who you allow yourself to love.
You may be bicurious, and at that questioning stage, but don't make any decisions yet. :)
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that's how tanner found out.
I'm not gay though.
Since when?[FONT="System"][SIZE="4"]I find it funny that thing that built me up,
is the same thing that broke me down.[/SIZE][/FONT]
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Curious-and-Depressed wrote:
I'm going to sound like an idiot, I know I should know this, but exactly is the difference between bicurious and bisexual?
Bi-curious is bullshit, that's what it is. -
1. Bicuriosity is not bullshit actually...
2. Bicuriosity is basically some level of attraction to the same sex, ranging from sexual to emotional or both. You may start wondering what other guys look like naked, or check them out in the locker room. It's just having curiosity (hence, bicuriosity)of some kind toward the same sex. It doesn't make you gay or bi, just curious. My best friend and I were bicurious at about the same time. Neither of us actually said that we were, and I don't think we were even consciously aware of the curiosity at the time. We ended up experimenting a little; he turned out straight, I came out bi (sucks for me since I'm in love but OHWELL) -
I don't think you should be worrying about what sexuality you are, so much as just doing what feels right. You say that you're afraid that you might end up dumping someone because you don't like their gender anymore. You needn't worry about that, because it shouldn't be on a gender basis, it should be on a person to person basis. If you love someone who happens to be your gender, go with them. If you love someone of the opposite gender, go with them. It should be what makes you happy, not what label you think you should be.
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There is no particular age of when someone knows, or thinks they are gay. Most people call it a 'phase', which it is - but it is also of what a person reflects on. The most trouble part of being 'curious' is that you cant decided if you are homosexual, bisexual, or straight. Of course all of them have a VERY different meaning, but it's the truth.
Don't look at the small things - If you.. how would you people put it these days, 'get in the mood' when you see a naked guy, or a hot guy; that doesn't exactly make you gay, or even bisexual. It just means that either your imagination is running, or perhaps you are 'curious' of where that comes from.
From what you said in your post, I wouldn't say you were either of the three, you are a pondering person who is undecided. Perhaps you say you might be gay (or bi), but you feel straight, and the other away around.
Usually when a man comes into the picture, then that's progress to know that you might be homosexual, or bisexual. Wanting to just 'screw' the guy doesn't make much of it, but being in love or having feelings for the same sex projects it.
If nothing above made sense.. well, I'm homosexual myself, proud of it. I figured out 100% when I fell in love with another guy, and from there on, I was.
Good luck. [COLOR="Teal"]Counselor at LGBT Committee Program of Ontario
Counselor at Ontario & Manitoba Int. Counselling Service
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Curious-and-Depressed wrote:
Hello guys. I can't go on and on, this is going to be short. But for 2 years I have questioned my sexuality and I tried to get help from Youtube. But the only person there said I was too young, but I'm not. Some of my friends have lost their virginity, almost everyone's had alchohol, I'm at the age that I should have some freaking idea. I have... I don't know what content is allowed here... j***ed off to women (I'm a guy) but that's because I'm pretty new to sexual thoughts. I'm sure if I saw a naked man I could do the same. I've seen men and thought "he's not hard on the eyes" or "ew." but I've never had wet dreams about either sex. I've never been in any relationship and when it comes to homosexual sterotypes I am feminine. I know of musicals that were made 20 years before I was born, I have just as many female friends as male friends and I still have stuffed animals. I like unicorns and don't get stupid boys. I know this doesn't lock me in as gay, but if that helps you help me then so be it. My question is, do you think I should try and experiment with the same sex? Or do you think I'm pretty straight? I'll answer any questions you have.
to me it sounds like you should experiment with the same sex because your young you have alot of time to make mistakes and if it doesnt work out then you can always go back to girls -
Jjplane wrote:
1. Bicuriosity is not bullshit actually...
2. Bicuriosity is basically some level of attraction to the same sex, ranging from sexual to emotional or both. You may start wondering what other guys look like naked, or check them out in the locker room. It's just having curiosity (hence, bicuriosity)of some kind toward the same sex. It doesn't make you gay or bi, just curious. My best friend and I were bicurious at about the same time. Neither of us actually said that we were, and I don't think we were even consciously aware of the curiosity at the time. We ended up experimenting a little; he turned out straight, I came out bi (sucks for me since I'm in love but OHWELL)
Yeah it is. Bi-curious = "I'm bisexual, but not willing to admit it to myself or anyone else yet". AKA, bullshit. You know you're bi, why are you pulling the "curious" bullcrap? It's just a way of saying "I'm in denial." Get over it and do yourself a favour and just admit it to yourself. "Curious" doesn't exist. Straight guys aren't curious about whether they like dick or not. -
JCpatriots wrote:
Straight guys aren't curious about whether they like dick or not.
And if they try dick, end up realizing they don't like it and prefer pussy? -
Let me tell you something, Curious-And-Depressed:
Your sexuality is something you can discover in any way possible. If you need to experiment (which is what I did), then do it. It's harmless (as long as you don't get caught) and it lets you try new things. The whole pornography thing doesn't really work because a teenage male's body will turn on to anything and if we based sexuality off of that, we'd all be Bisexual.
So from what I've heard, you might be BISEXUAL.
Just because you know musicals and have stuffed animals doesn't make you Gay; you just like different things. So what?
So I say you are Bisexual, but it's really up to you to decide, not anyone else's. I hope this helped.
"Be yourself. It's MUCH more fun!" - Me
I'm nice! PM ME! :wink:
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One thing I guess you can do is try to watch both gay and straight porn, and see which you're aroused by more. If both arouse you, then I think it's a safe bet you're bisexual (which I myself am btw).If you smacked a kid with a bottle of 'Johnson's No More Tears', wouldn't it create beautiful irony?
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I would say just wait. (Not until your older)
Experimenting might create future problems such as rumors, conflicts, and confusion. Let's say you DO do something with the same sex, then in the future you weren't as you were now [thought-wise] and people knew, and the girl of your dreams dislikes it? You never know.
I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I'm gay - but I waited. When I was 12, I thought the same way you did; eventually I couldn't even.. 'stand a naked woman', I'm not attracted, neither would I want to be.
In time. [COLOR="Teal"]Counselor at LGBT Committee Program of Ontario
Counselor at Ontario & Manitoba Int. Counselling Service
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