First off we were using protection but not all the time
Due to the fact that I had three different obgyn doctors tell me I was infertile and that I would never have kids unless I adopted.
But anyways back last april My fiance went through a testicular cancer scare they had found a lump in his baby makers, and the xrays etc looked like he did have cancer but it ended up being some rare infection.
But anyways in april I started asking him to get condoms but he would change the subject & make up excuses to why he couldn't buy them.
So in July I found out I was 11 weeks pregnant wasn't to happy about that but anyways my daughter was born a month ago. But 2 weeks ago My fiance admitted that he had been trying to get me pregnant because he was afraid that if he did have testicular cancer that he would never have kids, so he had and managed to get me pregnant.
I need advice on how to talk to him about how upset I am that instead of talking to me about it and it being a mutual agreement of sorts than me having to deal with the fact that I was pregnant
Why is this such a big deal well I was pretty much in job corps I was finally getting my life on track, getting things going for myself & than i became pregnant and I now couldnt do anything that I was planning. & now getting any kind of education is going to be a lot harder because now we have a baby to take care of... I love her & I'm happy she came into my life she is the best thing to ever happen to me but after finding this information out I now hold some resentment to my fiance because I feel like he didn't think about my life and where it was going & was selfish & did what he wanted not caring if I was finally getting on my own two feet and becoming independent, So yeah I know this is long but Advice on how I can talk to him about this without starting a huge fight
Due to the fact that I had three different obgyn doctors tell me I was infertile and that I would never have kids unless I adopted.
But anyways back last april My fiance went through a testicular cancer scare they had found a lump in his baby makers, and the xrays etc looked like he did have cancer but it ended up being some rare infection.
But anyways in april I started asking him to get condoms but he would change the subject & make up excuses to why he couldn't buy them.
So in July I found out I was 11 weeks pregnant wasn't to happy about that but anyways my daughter was born a month ago. But 2 weeks ago My fiance admitted that he had been trying to get me pregnant because he was afraid that if he did have testicular cancer that he would never have kids, so he had and managed to get me pregnant.
I need advice on how to talk to him about how upset I am that instead of talking to me about it and it being a mutual agreement of sorts than me having to deal with the fact that I was pregnant
Why is this such a big deal well I was pretty much in job corps I was finally getting my life on track, getting things going for myself & than i became pregnant and I now couldnt do anything that I was planning. & now getting any kind of education is going to be a lot harder because now we have a baby to take care of... I love her & I'm happy she came into my life she is the best thing to ever happen to me but after finding this information out I now hold some resentment to my fiance because I feel like he didn't think about my life and where it was going & was selfish & did what he wanted not caring if I was finally getting on my own two feet and becoming independent, So yeah I know this is long but Advice on how I can talk to him about this without starting a huge fight