This sounds weird, but having been turned down before, it is better if you aren't nice. When girls try to be all like "don't worry we can stay friends, I'm really really sorry" it makes me want them more. If you are rude it gives the guy a reason to feel like you don't deserve him anyway, etc. Being unlikeable is better then desirable for the guy your turning down. I don't mean be really mean, but don't worry about not being nice.

Jack is right.

As I tend to hang around with loads of guys, I've been asked out by the majority of them at some point or another and - whilst it's flattering to find out a guy likes you - it can cause a whole load of complications if you don't like them back. Whilst girls would rather be let down gently, guys can't seem to process a no unless it's a straight out one.

I tried the whole 'I'm sorry, I really like you but only as a friend etc etc etc' tack on most of them, but as you've experienced, none of them seemed to understand. Each came back for more, even though I'd said no, because I'd said it nicely they heard it as 'no, not right now.'

One of them even tried to provoke me into having a go at him to get a full on harsh rejection, claiming that "If I didn't have an absolute no, I would always keep hoping you'd love me back" despite the fact I 'd thought I'd made it clear I wasn't interested by telling him I only liked him as a friend and I was dating someone else.

Anyway, whilst it may seem like a harsh response at the time, you have to just say no thankyou. Don't dress it up with excuses or try and hedge it. I think most guys would rather just hear that and be able to get over you without wondering if your excuses meant you actually like him etc etc.

Ugh, I wish I could say no to people, I haven't mastered the technique. I feel too horrible to say anything =(

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Honestly, I've always been bad about shutting a guy down. I don't like being mean when they're genuinely interested in me. The best thing I've come up with to do, is be honest, but, if you think you might like them in any way, suggest a group day/night so you can get to know each other better. That way, he'll at least know what your thinking, and no one gets their hopes up or their hopes shot down.

Personally, when I have turned down girls, i be honest, or usually say "sorry but I'm interested in someone"

Whoa.

There's actually a bit of knowledge in this universe, that you have not acquired?

I'm shocked.

ishyboy93 wrote:

Whoa.

There's actually a bit of knowledge in this universe, that you have not acquired?

I'm shocked.

This. :tehe:

Why not just go for it? for all you know he's a decent guy.

i would just tell him that you dont see him in that kinda of way. i hate turning people down because i always feel so bad afterwards but its better to tell them how you feel then to lead them on you know?

You probably weren't even asked out on a date half of the times. I know there were 2 cases in my life where I asked to do something with the girl and she thought I was asking her out on an actual date which is retarded. So many narrow minded girls out there these days that think they are desired so much that every guy is after them

Cause most girls are shallow.

Sorry, not sorry.

In my experience. I prefer girls to just be straight forward.. I've never been turned down, but if I was I'd want the flat out honest truth. That's how I like things. No sugar coating. (breakups, hate when people sugar coat those)

Shallow would be turning someone down because of how they look or what they do. I can't really see how it's shallow to not go out with someone if you have no feelings for them ha.

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Same has happened to me but with guys hah. The guys at the high school I graduated from were a bit stuck on themselves.

She never really explained why she was turning them down so I took a guess.

Most girls wouldn't turn down a date with an attractive guy.

Ah gotcha. I guess I'm weird then ha, I judge on personality first.