The first thing most of you will probably say is "stay away". Before you say this please try to see the other side to this situation.
I met a male at my college a couple of months back. We just became friendly then it seemed to lead upto a great friendship. (I love to be sociable with everyone anyway) but it was just coincidental that we became actual friends.
Over the past month there has been a lot of trouble with several students (including myself), where people have been spreading a lot of shit and actually becoming quite personal (Because i like to hang around with another guy and this new friend doesnt like it). So i fathemed out what was going on. It seemed obvious that this new friend of mine didnt like me hanging with this other guy (because he has feelings for me as in love). So i tried to involve this guy (gareth) because i didnt want him to feel left out and jealous. Eventually it came out that gareth was part of the situation and i was quite sure he was one of the people spreading the stuff around. Anyway, things began to cool down eventually up until a couple of weeks ago when Gareth began to freak us all in the college coridoors. He is very obsessive over me (we trid keeping away from him because it got a bit over the top) but then what happened was massive arguments inside the college because he couldnt get his own way. Problem is he is coming near us and trying to scare the crap out of us. We werent going near him a couple of weeks ago because it would have made the whole situation worse. Instead, he was coming over to us. What really began to concern me was how he was behaving. Dont like to say it but he's mentally going over the top with his behavior. He comes screaming/shouting down the coridoor (which the whole building would easily be able to hear) then he literally tries grabbing one of us as he cannot control his temper when he gets annoyed. Nothing happened THANK GOD but something could happen. Someone nearly went over the railings (which actually was me) inside one of the coridoors because onetime he came running down the coridoor, scared the crap out of me and i quickly moved out the way in shock.
The staff are aware of whats been going on, but my only concern is what will he do next time!? I dont want to be in college and put at harm like this. One of my friends knew him at school and his mother said gareth actually put someone in hospital once. Im just worried this will happen to me or one of my friends.
I know this seems bad, but i am trying to be more understanding towards him.
I understand he has problems and i also know they're overboard, but i dont know what to do for the best here because i do believe he is a really nice guy inside, just with a lot of problems. What do you lot think?
when i stay away from him he seems to become more obsessed and then flies over the handle. Im worried that if i try and be friends with him he is just going to start dragging the whole situation up again, what happened a couple of weeks ago.
But then i feel maybe i could help him.
I just dont know. I dont think he likes how he is and i understand this, but i dont want to be put at risk of getting harmed.
Help!
I met a male at my college a couple of months back. We just became friendly then it seemed to lead upto a great friendship. (I love to be sociable with everyone anyway) but it was just coincidental that we became actual friends.
Over the past month there has been a lot of trouble with several students (including myself), where people have been spreading a lot of shit and actually becoming quite personal (Because i like to hang around with another guy and this new friend doesnt like it). So i fathemed out what was going on. It seemed obvious that this new friend of mine didnt like me hanging with this other guy (because he has feelings for me as in love). So i tried to involve this guy (gareth) because i didnt want him to feel left out and jealous. Eventually it came out that gareth was part of the situation and i was quite sure he was one of the people spreading the stuff around. Anyway, things began to cool down eventually up until a couple of weeks ago when Gareth began to freak us all in the college coridoors. He is very obsessive over me (we trid keeping away from him because it got a bit over the top) but then what happened was massive arguments inside the college because he couldnt get his own way. Problem is he is coming near us and trying to scare the crap out of us. We werent going near him a couple of weeks ago because it would have made the whole situation worse. Instead, he was coming over to us. What really began to concern me was how he was behaving. Dont like to say it but he's mentally going over the top with his behavior. He comes screaming/shouting down the coridoor (which the whole building would easily be able to hear) then he literally tries grabbing one of us as he cannot control his temper when he gets annoyed. Nothing happened THANK GOD but something could happen. Someone nearly went over the railings (which actually was me) inside one of the coridoors because onetime he came running down the coridoor, scared the crap out of me and i quickly moved out the way in shock.
The staff are aware of whats been going on, but my only concern is what will he do next time!? I dont want to be in college and put at harm like this. One of my friends knew him at school and his mother said gareth actually put someone in hospital once. Im just worried this will happen to me or one of my friends.
I know this seems bad, but i am trying to be more understanding towards him.
I understand he has problems and i also know they're overboard, but i dont know what to do for the best here because i do believe he is a really nice guy inside, just with a lot of problems. What do you lot think?
when i stay away from him he seems to become more obsessed and then flies over the handle. Im worried that if i try and be friends with him he is just going to start dragging the whole situation up again, what happened a couple of weeks ago.
But then i feel maybe i could help him.
I just dont know. I dont think he likes how he is and i understand this, but i dont want to be put at risk of getting harmed.
Help!