Hey guys, I'm new here and wanted some help. If you don't want to read the whole thing basically: how do I get the guts to approach, talk, and hold a conversation with people? How do I break out my shell and show people I'm more than just quiet and smart?
There's this girl in my class that I don't sit in front of in History that I'm really in to. She's a lesbian too so it works out, but I never have the guts to talk to her. I feel like if I talk to her I'll annoy her or she'll be weirded out by me since the only thing she knows about me is that Im the really smart girl who doesn't talk. We've only talked once or twice and it was only pertaining to school work and I couldn't get the concersations to last more than a minute. It's not that I don't like to talk, I can make great conversation if it falls in line with my interests (gaming, anime, manga, debate, etc), if I'm simply listening to other people's conversations, or if I'm debated or presenting something I'm well versed of or proud of, but talking about senseless things doesn't come naturally to me. I overthink every step I make, and I always try to think of stuff to talk about beforehand only to worry myself too much and chicken out. It's even harder when her friends are around, because they don't let me join their conversations no matter how much I try to add things to their convos. It's not just her I'm trying to talk to, but classmates as well (the nicer ones). I feel like having friends would not only benefit me socially (Im an introvert so I don't need friends to have fun, but they're nice to have) but also make me appealing in her eyes. No one wants to date the quiet person do they? I'm only quiet in class though, at home with family I'm the total opposite. I just want the opportunity to show her this other fun, creative, energetic side of me one-on-one so her perception of me is in a better light. (I have no idea what her perception of me is right now ) What can I do to gain confidence in socialization and what I have to say? Thnx in advance.
There's this girl in my class that I don't sit in front of in History that I'm really in to. She's a lesbian too so it works out, but I never have the guts to talk to her. I feel like if I talk to her I'll annoy her or she'll be weirded out by me since the only thing she knows about me is that Im the really smart girl who doesn't talk. We've only talked once or twice and it was only pertaining to school work and I couldn't get the concersations to last more than a minute. It's not that I don't like to talk, I can make great conversation if it falls in line with my interests (gaming, anime, manga, debate, etc), if I'm simply listening to other people's conversations, or if I'm debated or presenting something I'm well versed of or proud of, but talking about senseless things doesn't come naturally to me. I overthink every step I make, and I always try to think of stuff to talk about beforehand only to worry myself too much and chicken out. It's even harder when her friends are around, because they don't let me join their conversations no matter how much I try to add things to their convos. It's not just her I'm trying to talk to, but classmates as well (the nicer ones). I feel like having friends would not only benefit me socially (Im an introvert so I don't need friends to have fun, but they're nice to have) but also make me appealing in her eyes. No one wants to date the quiet person do they? I'm only quiet in class though, at home with family I'm the total opposite. I just want the opportunity to show her this other fun, creative, energetic side of me one-on-one so her perception of me is in a better light. (I have no idea what her perception of me is right now ) What can I do to gain confidence in socialization and what I have to say? Thnx in advance.
The person everyone wants to see is the true you. The you that's stripped of the mask and the fancy clothes, the you that's pure and simple, the you where everything, from interests to insecurities, is shown in full light. Be yourself, and nobody else.