Hello community!
That's my first post here because I am really don't know what to do anymore, I just need help.
The situation is:
I've been seeing this guy for around 7 months. He was passive from the beginning. I had to initiate everything at the beginning, then it got a bit better from his side (I talked to him about that for more than one time and then he asked me out more) but now it's almost the same again.
He's a very nice person and from one side he acts interested BUT ONLY if I initiate something. For example when I call he says at the end that he's glad I called etc.
We didn't see each other for two months now due to exams etc. and a few days ago we had the chance to see each other for literally 2 minutes, then again a few days later we saw each other for another 2 minutes (just had to give him something) and I know it sounds stupid but he didn't even greet me with a hug or anything (he only does if I do) or when we say goodbye he just walks away like we're friends, lol.
He doesn't initiate almost anything at all and I'm also talking about phone calls since I am the one who ALWAYS has to call first.
I just feel tired of it. I'm exhausted I don't feel like initiating calls and meetings or always being the first one to give him a hug each time we see each other anymore. Like come on, we didn't see each other for two months face to face and he just greets me like some friend...
After these 7 months, it all made me feel sort of empty, like I lost all of my feelings for him... I think that a relationship is about giving and taking and I just feel like I'm doing all the giving... No idea if I should even continue this.
I don't even know if that's a relationship. I have no idea what that even is. We acted like a couple for some time and I thought we would be together but as you can see, I lack affection and have to initiate everything and it just makes me sad and tired.
I hope someone can help me.
That's my first post here because I am really don't know what to do anymore, I just need help.
The situation is:
I've been seeing this guy for around 7 months. He was passive from the beginning. I had to initiate everything at the beginning, then it got a bit better from his side (I talked to him about that for more than one time and then he asked me out more) but now it's almost the same again.
He's a very nice person and from one side he acts interested BUT ONLY if I initiate something. For example when I call he says at the end that he's glad I called etc.
We didn't see each other for two months now due to exams etc. and a few days ago we had the chance to see each other for literally 2 minutes, then again a few days later we saw each other for another 2 minutes (just had to give him something) and I know it sounds stupid but he didn't even greet me with a hug or anything (he only does if I do) or when we say goodbye he just walks away like we're friends, lol.
He doesn't initiate almost anything at all and I'm also talking about phone calls since I am the one who ALWAYS has to call first.
I just feel tired of it. I'm exhausted I don't feel like initiating calls and meetings or always being the first one to give him a hug each time we see each other anymore. Like come on, we didn't see each other for two months face to face and he just greets me like some friend...
After these 7 months, it all made me feel sort of empty, like I lost all of my feelings for him... I think that a relationship is about giving and taking and I just feel like I'm doing all the giving... No idea if I should even continue this.
I don't even know if that's a relationship. I have no idea what that even is. We acted like a couple for some time and I thought we would be together but as you can see, I lack affection and have to initiate everything and it just makes me sad and tired.
I hope someone can help me.