I was wondering...
Is it considered as sexual abuse if you didn't want to have sexual intercourse but still said yes, because you didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings/ruin the mood ?
the relationship in itself was toxic and abusive : he yelled at me, guilt tripped me, tried to isolate me from most of my friends, acted distant almost all the time etc etc..
when we had sex, it was almost always painful, but still we did it every time we saw each other (once a week) because I thought that it was only during these moments he actually looked at me. that wasn't really true of course, because even when we did it, he was distant, he had no expression on his face, there was practically no tenderness. During that one time I really didn't want to do it, I felt like an object...but I didn't want to tell him to stop bc I didn't want to ruin the mood and when I told him later, I forced myself to do it with him, he got angry with me, saying that I made him feel like shit, that I'd hurt his feelings.
so yeah.. I just wanted to know, how would that be considered, knowing that I always said yes instead of telling him to stop?
Is it considered as sexual abuse if you didn't want to have sexual intercourse but still said yes, because you didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings/ruin the mood ?
the relationship in itself was toxic and abusive : he yelled at me, guilt tripped me, tried to isolate me from most of my friends, acted distant almost all the time etc etc..
when we had sex, it was almost always painful, but still we did it every time we saw each other (once a week) because I thought that it was only during these moments he actually looked at me. that wasn't really true of course, because even when we did it, he was distant, he had no expression on his face, there was practically no tenderness. During that one time I really didn't want to do it, I felt like an object...but I didn't want to tell him to stop bc I didn't want to ruin the mood and when I told him later, I forced myself to do it with him, he got angry with me, saying that I made him feel like shit, that I'd hurt his feelings.
so yeah.. I just wanted to know, how would that be considered, knowing that I always said yes instead of telling him to stop?