Right so, I need a bit of advice.
About 4-5 weeks ago my boyfriend found out he has a child that he didn't know about (a long, hairy story that we won't get into right now). The girl told him that she really just needed help financially and he didn't have to have anything to do with the baby if he didn't want to. He isn't the kind of guy that's just going to throw a couple hundred dollars at the kid every month and never see him. So since he's found out he's been seeing the baby twice a week.
I've pretty much been staying out of this whole ordeal as much as possible. Recently he's been suggesting that I spend time with him when he has the baby. I really don't know what to think about that. Our relationship is very serious, I'm moving in with him in 7 months, so eventually I'll have to be involved a little. I just don't know if it's a good idea to get involved right now.
Another concern is the baby's mother. I know for certain that my boyfriend hasn't talked to her about me (concerning the baby, she knows he has a girlfriend, etc.) I was wondering if I did decide to spend time with my boyfriend when he has the baby, should I speak to the mom before I do so? I don't want her to feel that I'm stepping on her toes, because that certainly isn't what I want to do. Or should I have him talk to her about it?
I don't really know what kind of advice I'm looking for here, this whole situation is just frustrating. And I can't talk to anyone in 'real life' about it. So any advice would be much appreciated :).
About 4-5 weeks ago my boyfriend found out he has a child that he didn't know about (a long, hairy story that we won't get into right now). The girl told him that she really just needed help financially and he didn't have to have anything to do with the baby if he didn't want to. He isn't the kind of guy that's just going to throw a couple hundred dollars at the kid every month and never see him. So since he's found out he's been seeing the baby twice a week.
I've pretty much been staying out of this whole ordeal as much as possible. Recently he's been suggesting that I spend time with him when he has the baby. I really don't know what to think about that. Our relationship is very serious, I'm moving in with him in 7 months, so eventually I'll have to be involved a little. I just don't know if it's a good idea to get involved right now.
Another concern is the baby's mother. I know for certain that my boyfriend hasn't talked to her about me (concerning the baby, she knows he has a girlfriend, etc.) I was wondering if I did decide to spend time with my boyfriend when he has the baby, should I speak to the mom before I do so? I don't want her to feel that I'm stepping on her toes, because that certainly isn't what I want to do. Or should I have him talk to her about it?
I don't really know what kind of advice I'm looking for here, this whole situation is just frustrating. And I can't talk to anyone in 'real life' about it. So any advice would be much appreciated :).
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