Hey.
Some tips,
Dealing with parents sometimes can be tough and rough. It may feel like you should be hitting your head against the wall in anger or talking to a brick wall, my parents are like that.
Its not always rainbows and butterflies with parents, its compromise that moves us along, sometimes you must compromise with them to get anywhere. Giving in and compromises doesn’t mean you don’t have a say in the matter; you can also have your say but its how you choose to give it is what matters.
When parents yell at you, most times it’s because of something. Most people don’t yell for no reason or even raise their voices. It’s better to acknowledge that you might have done and if you’re at wrong, and then you should own up to it. Attempt to explain the situation from your point of view. Be polite and apologize. Be sincere, even if you don't think you did anything wrong. Don't go off in a rant about 100 reasons why you’re not at fault or your parents are an idiot.
Mimicking Parents doesn't go over well, even if you think they are out of earshot, normally they hear you and it can create a bigger situation.
Your parents care about you and sometimes they loose their tempers, its not the end of the world, and it happens to everyone. Even Bill Gates gets mad at his kids but its how you and your parents handle the problems is what matters. You may get angry with your parents, but don't bottle up the rage, or when you blow, it wont be pretty and will not help you with dealing with parents. Remember to take some time for both of you to cool down when having a fight with your parents, come back when you can both think straight.
Relationships in families are built around trust and communication, even if you give the half truth to parents, its better then not telling them the truth and them finding out later that you bluntly lied to them.
Dating is a choice, not a requirement, and many parents frown upon teens dating when they are young. Most times you’ll hear your parents say "You’re not having a girlfriend, boyfriend till you move out of the house!” there is many ways around this. Avoid finding the jealous type, and don't be the jealous type when you find a relationship because this will cause parents to get very stressful if they find out.. The opposite sex chose to be with you, trust them with everyone else and realize they want you. With a boyfriend or girlfriend, make sure you’re happy with them and they are an okay person. With the right boyfriend or girlfriend, it won’t be hard to win your parents over to let you continue dating them.
I realized that most teens are rebellious and dislike their parents controlling, but they have been where you are and have seen what the world can do, they have your best interests at heart (Most of them anyways) and want the best for you.
Remember to smile and use your manners with your parents, its free and it wont cause you any pain! Hugs and affection are also good ways to keep your relationships in the greenzone.
Don't take advantage of your parents. You may know their weaknesses but don't overdo them or take advantage; normally they will come back and bite you in the butt! Karma with parents does happen. Do something special for your parents sometimes. Sometimes, showing mutual appreciation is the best way to build and maintain relationships. Making breakfast goes a long way to improve your relationship with your parents.
As long as you communicate, play your cards right, you can deal with parents and have a little less stress in your life.
Well I hope this helps you somehow, and that you remember that not everything is rainbows and butterflies with your parents.
~ Cat
Some tips,
Dealing with parents sometimes can be tough and rough. It may feel like you should be hitting your head against the wall in anger or talking to a brick wall, my parents are like that.
Its not always rainbows and butterflies with parents, its compromise that moves us along, sometimes you must compromise with them to get anywhere. Giving in and compromises doesn’t mean you don’t have a say in the matter; you can also have your say but its how you choose to give it is what matters.
When parents yell at you, most times it’s because of something. Most people don’t yell for no reason or even raise their voices. It’s better to acknowledge that you might have done and if you’re at wrong, and then you should own up to it. Attempt to explain the situation from your point of view. Be polite and apologize. Be sincere, even if you don't think you did anything wrong. Don't go off in a rant about 100 reasons why you’re not at fault or your parents are an idiot.
Mimicking Parents doesn't go over well, even if you think they are out of earshot, normally they hear you and it can create a bigger situation.
Your parents care about you and sometimes they loose their tempers, its not the end of the world, and it happens to everyone. Even Bill Gates gets mad at his kids but its how you and your parents handle the problems is what matters. You may get angry with your parents, but don't bottle up the rage, or when you blow, it wont be pretty and will not help you with dealing with parents. Remember to take some time for both of you to cool down when having a fight with your parents, come back when you can both think straight.
Relationships in families are built around trust and communication, even if you give the half truth to parents, its better then not telling them the truth and them finding out later that you bluntly lied to them.
Dating is a choice, not a requirement, and many parents frown upon teens dating when they are young. Most times you’ll hear your parents say "You’re not having a girlfriend, boyfriend till you move out of the house!” there is many ways around this. Avoid finding the jealous type, and don't be the jealous type when you find a relationship because this will cause parents to get very stressful if they find out.. The opposite sex chose to be with you, trust them with everyone else and realize they want you. With a boyfriend or girlfriend, make sure you’re happy with them and they are an okay person. With the right boyfriend or girlfriend, it won’t be hard to win your parents over to let you continue dating them.
I realized that most teens are rebellious and dislike their parents controlling, but they have been where you are and have seen what the world can do, they have your best interests at heart (Most of them anyways) and want the best for you.
Remember to smile and use your manners with your parents, its free and it wont cause you any pain! Hugs and affection are also good ways to keep your relationships in the greenzone.
Don't take advantage of your parents. You may know their weaknesses but don't overdo them or take advantage; normally they will come back and bite you in the butt! Karma with parents does happen. Do something special for your parents sometimes. Sometimes, showing mutual appreciation is the best way to build and maintain relationships. Making breakfast goes a long way to improve your relationship with your parents.
As long as you communicate, play your cards right, you can deal with parents and have a little less stress in your life.
Well I hope this helps you somehow, and that you remember that not everything is rainbows and butterflies with your parents.
~ Cat
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