Is it ok to be angry..?

Atiuan.Koko · Jun 6th 2009, 10:57am

Umm I have a friend and sometimes he cuts himself.. Well, he does it often.

Actually I have a few friends like that. Anyway, sometimes I get so angry when they do it..

Is it ok to show this anger..?

AudiHolic-rs4 · Jun 6th 2009, 11:01am

Yes!

Then give them a real reason to cut them selves, punch them and tell them to get a life and a real reason to cry

Bosh Bash Bish · Jun 6th 2009, 11:16am

It depends.
Do they cut themselves because they are depressed or really not happy with their life??
Or do they just cut themselves just for fun?

AudiHolic-rs4 · Jun 6th 2009, 11:21am

Chloe93 wrote:

It depends.
Do they cut themselves because they are depressed or really not happy with their life??
Or do they just cut themselves just for fun?

How many people cut themselves for fun?

Bosh Bash Bish · Jun 6th 2009, 11:24am

Some people do - some people enjoy the pain..

Atiuan.Koko · Jun 6th 2009, 11:36am

They do it because they are depressed and it makes me angry that they hurt themselves for it..

It makes me angry but really sad as well.. I dont know..

But uhmm yeh..

is it ok to be angry at them, or tell them Im angry that they do these things..?

Bosh Bash Bish · Jun 6th 2009, 11:46am

In my opinion, people cut to try and get attention.. needed attention..
If you show your anger towards them, then they will get more upset because their upsetting their friend, if that makes any sense..
You can tell them how much it is hurting you, and show them that people do care about them and so forth.

AudiHolic-rs4 · Jun 6th 2009, 11:48am

People are Mental these days..Mental!!!:mad:

mjdm · Jun 6th 2009, 2:50pm

It isnt exactly okay. Because hes causing himself anger, and misery, and bodily harm. it is better than taking his anger out on other people though yes. I would suggest that he talk to someone about his issues instead of cutting himself though.

Atiuan.Koko · Jun 6th 2009, 4:52pm

I know. I suggested that. He won't talk to anyone. But also, I don't know how to make him stop.

Lozzaa. · Jun 7th 2009, 10:48pm

You should show them your emoction to it and tell them how it makes you feel. Some peple just do it for attention though, so buy gving them too much attention, it could cause them to continue doing it.

Give them another way out - besides cutting themselves. Make sure they know thy can come to you for advice, and jus a general talk if they like .
All the best:)

Ken_ · Jun 7th 2009, 10:55pm

AudiHolic-rs4 wrote:

How many people cut themselves for fun?

I do, I've actually branded myself for fun.

Anyways, yes it's fine too show anger.

Tenris · Jun 9th 2009, 8:51pm

Hi

It's understandable and entirely normal to feel frustration when having to repeatedly reassure people and make them feel better - then they go ahead and do it again and you feel like it was all a waste of time.
It's not a bad thing. You're entitiled to emotions as well. They don't understand how you feel about it. You just need to find ways of staying strong - for them as well as yourself

You're doing a good thing helping them.
Hope you feel better xx

harvey · Jun 9th 2009, 9:41pm

its quite likly that you wont be able to make them stop
but yeh show them it makes you angry and maby they will think of how it affects you next time.
you get an e-hug:hugs:

alexisj · Jun 11th 2009, 9:13am

In my opinion, I think it's not a good reaction.
Much better if you cry, instead of showing anger.

You can never tell, what if you get angry, and then
that person whose trying to cut :ninja:

himself, got to
the point of competing with your anger..

Better show calmness in order to reduce tensions.
Ask him first his feelings and reasons why
this person ended up doing this hilarious thing. :rolleyes:

Atiuan.Koko · Jun 11th 2009, 9:48am

Thank you for the responses

e-hugs all round :hugs:

James MacKenzie · Jun 11th 2009, 10:42am

Maybe it's better if you don't show anger, though it's not bad you're angry, it shows you care.
I'm sure that the person doesn't want you to feel anger because of their actions, they probably don't even want you to feel anyway to their actions.

Talking might not help, but showing deication to the person, and showing you love them, and that there are other ways out, than cutting themselves will probably have better effects than getting angry at the person.

Hope it helps just a little.

Jack · Jun 11th 2009, 11:57am

of course its ok to be angry

flyaway · Jun 11th 2009, 6:58pm

it's okay to be angry with them. sometimes people need to know that self harm not only hurts themselves, but other people too. let them know that you're concerned and angry, it could help.

Jigoku's Tenshi · Jun 11th 2009, 7:35pm

Hi

It's definitely okay to be angry, but I don't think it's such a good idea to show that to them. Try to keep it in. As someone else has said, it can be frustrating to keep reassuring them, only for them to go and do it again, but stay strong mate.

The only thing you can really do is just wait. Eventually they will grow out of it or find help. You should just keep your anger in, perhaps take it out on something else? Just try to be there them. They're cutting for a reason - they're depressed or looking for attention.

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