Hey peoples, this is something that has been bothering me since well, the beginning of the year and being anonymous here, I figured I could get multiple advices without telling everyone I know my situation So yeah done rambling here it goes:
This boy I've dated twice, and all together it's been a year and 6 months really means a lot to me but he can be so pessimistic and a "realist" as he likes to call it usually. He's a good boyfriend, doesn't abuse me or anything like that, lol just has a tendency to piss me off at times.
Back a few months ago we were having one of our deep conversations and we somehow got onto his topic. He told me that he doesn't really see us dating all the way through high school. He isn't confident with high school relationships at all being a "realist." He sees his uncle and aunt who were high school sweet hearts and are miserable apparently and he doesn't want that.
I told him I don't expect a happy ever after, but I asked him why can't you live it day by day? You're just planning a break up...Then asking him a few more questions he said even after he would love to live with me, and stay in contact but again, going based on other peoples experiences, he doubts him, his friends and I will stay in contact.
I've gone through lapses feeling like I'm wasting my time then I think about the experience [not in the sexual way or stuff like that] I can gain and learn from all this. It really bothers me to have this in my head at times, and I can honestly say I love the kid. I just wish he could be more open too when it came to serious stuff, that conversation was once in a blue moon. He can be so reserved even to his family.
This boy I've dated twice, and all together it's been a year and 6 months really means a lot to me but he can be so pessimistic and a "realist" as he likes to call it usually. He's a good boyfriend, doesn't abuse me or anything like that, lol just has a tendency to piss me off at times.
Back a few months ago we were having one of our deep conversations and we somehow got onto his topic. He told me that he doesn't really see us dating all the way through high school. He isn't confident with high school relationships at all being a "realist." He sees his uncle and aunt who were high school sweet hearts and are miserable apparently and he doesn't want that.
I told him I don't expect a happy ever after, but I asked him why can't you live it day by day? You're just planning a break up...Then asking him a few more questions he said even after he would love to live with me, and stay in contact but again, going based on other peoples experiences, he doubts him, his friends and I will stay in contact.
I've gone through lapses feeling like I'm wasting my time then I think about the experience [not in the sexual way or stuff like that] I can gain and learn from all this. It really bothers me to have this in my head at times, and I can honestly say I love the kid. I just wish he could be more open too when it came to serious stuff, that conversation was once in a blue moon. He can be so reserved even to his family.