Would you consider me gay?

    • Would you consider me gay?

      Ok, so I've always had some doubts about my sexuality but it's always just been a experimenting type of homosexuality, things like showing eachother your dick and all that..

      I'm interested in girls, had 2 girlfriends and still plan on having a wife in the future and having a family.

      But, my best friend who I started hanging out with about a year ago is a different story. Of course, he is a male, and I am extremely attracted to him. He is such an awesome friend and we know everything about each other, except that I'm in love with him.

      So, does this mean I'm gay? It's not all men I'm attracted to, it's just him. There's something about him that I just can't get enough of and its a true, deep friendship that we have. At the same time, I like girls too.

      What do you guys think? I am trying to decide whether or not to tell him also.

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      Aaron, I have been in your situation. When you realize you love your friend, and you would like a relationship with him, you are in a really bad spot. Gay? Yeah. Bi? Yeah. You aren't straight. But, you are gonna be heartbroken when you make a move on your friend, and he realizes that you want a physical relationship with him.

      You need to honestly figure out if you can accept getting married to a gf, and find yourself still loving him or another guy. Idk if anybody could do that.

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      hey my names pat and persoanlly i think you are in fac t bi or gay because i also think and know i wanna marry a women but if i really think abotu it i wotn be happy. i think you are in fact in lvoe with him as you say but i know the situation your in and i dont think you shoudl say anything. it could freak him out and he could dump you as a friend. try finding out if eh is intereste din boys at all liek watch porn together and by accident oput on a gay one and be like ooo u like this dont you? if he says no immedietly then dont tell him. if eh hesitates keep tryna get it outta him. i feeel soo bad for youu you are in the worst position ever.
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      I went through something similar a couple years ago..

      it's not always about labeling yourself..
      love is a powerful thing.
      love is a bond with another person, a very special bond. and it is not confined to one gender or one type of person.


      if you feel like you are attracted to your best friend, and even in love with him, it does not mean you are gay.
      don't let the media, and those around you, fool you.

      you are who you are, and only you can define yourself.
      like I said before, labels are not important.

      if you love him, there is nothing wrong with it.. if you are attracted to him, there is NOTHING wrong with it.
      be at peace with yourself, and what makes you happy.
      don't let other people tell you who you are.


      good luck :]
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      look bro i think its just that you feel super close to him and yea u like him but you might have intentions of physical touching with him but see if you have signs of him actually wanting to do the same thing back that you just don't know about and you might be bi but think about watching porn or something before jumping off telling him that
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      annonymous wrote:

      I went through something similar a couple years ago..

      it's not always about labeling yourself..
      love is a powerful thing.
      love is a bond with another person, a very special bond. and it is not confined to one gender or one type of person.


      if you feel like you are attracted to your best friend, and even in love with him, it does not mean you are gay.
      don't let the media, and those around you, fool you.

      you are who you are, and only you can define yourself.
      like I said before, labels are not important.

      if you love him, there is nothing wrong with it.. if you are attracted to him, there is NOTHING wrong with it.
      be at peace with yourself, and what makes you happy.
      don't let other people tell you who you are.


      good luck :]


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    • Re: Would you consider me gay?

      mazda3luver wrote:

      Ok, so I've always had some doubts about my sexuality but it's always just been a experimenting type of homosexuality, things like showing eachother your dick and all that..

      I'm interested in girls, had 2 girlfriends and still plan on having a wife in the future and having a family.

      But, my best friend who I started hanging out with about a year ago is a different story. Of course, he is a male, and I am extremely attracted to him. He is such an awesome friend and we know everything about each other, except that I'm in love with him.

      So, does this mean I'm gay? It's not all men I'm attracted to, it's just him. There's something about him that I just can't get enough of and its a true, deep friendship that we have. At the same time, I like girls too.

      What do you guys think? I am trying to decide whether or not to tell him also.


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      It is normal to question your sexuality, and if you are not attracted to any other guys I would say that you are most likely straight. However, only you can really know your sexuality.
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    • Re: Would you consider me gay?

      mazda3luver wrote:

      Ok, so I've always had some doubts about my sexuality but it's always just been a experimenting type of homosexuality, things like showing eachother your dick and all that..

      I'm interested in girls, had 2 girlfriends and still plan on having a wife in the future and having a family.

      But, my best friend who I started hanging out with about a year ago is a different story. Of course, he is a male, and I am extremely attracted to him. He is such an awesome friend and we know everything about each other, except that I'm in love with him.

      So, does this mean I'm gay? It's not all men I'm attracted to, it's just him. There's something about him that I just can't get enough of and its a true, deep friendship that we have. At the same time, I like girls too.

      What do you guys think? I am trying to decide whether or not to tell him also.


      okay I have one question and thats: What did you think the first time your eyes met? and has that changed when you look at him?
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    • Re: Would you consider me gay?

      sorry the amount of people saying you're gay or bi is starting to annoy me!
      this is why i don't like labels - you don't fit any of them and you feel shit because of it, am i right?
      in the perfect world, no-one would care what (not even who, but what!) you loved, because it's love. it's not the gender that matters. you aren't gay, you're not straight, you just obviously love people for more than looks, and isn't that a blessing?
      It's not uncommon to fall in love with a member of the same sex, even when you consider yourself straight. if you watch torchwood, you'll relate to the jack/ianto romance, where ianto said "it's not men, it's just him, it's only him". i thought that was the best thing i'd ever seen. finally, an accurate representation of love on our tv!
      but yeah, just see what happens. he might feel the same way - he might not. he might hate you if you confess that you love him, but he might take you into his arms and ...
      i really hope the future is better, where the only thing that matters is love, not gender.
      Be who you want to be :)

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      Maybe you're queer. Queer and gay isn't the same thing.
      There's gay (same sex orientation)
      Bisexual (same sex and opposite sex attraction)
      Bi-curious (curious about same-sex)
      And queer....you aren't anything really. You are who you are and you fall in love with whoever your heart desires. Love is love. I dont like how th dictionary defines everything these days. I consider myself bisexual, lesbian, gay or queer. You are who you are. I would try talking to him about it first. Slide into a conversation about it. I wouldnt just randomly ask him, "What do you think about gays?" but I would mention a gay friend you possibly have and tell him a story of one of your gay friends (if you have any) make one up if you have to just to see his reaction. If its a good reaction, like if he says "oh well I'm bisexual" then definitely hint around the bush that you may have feelings for him but if his reaction is, "Oh god no...cant stand gay people...disgusting" then I wouldn't go any further than friendship if I were you....

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      your bisexual it seems, bisexually straight, meaning you prefer girls, but you just happenede to find a guy you can love. :)

      dont rush anything. if things happen, they happen, dont push them. or you may end up being more that rejected.
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